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Monday, February 27, 2012
Letting Yourself Go?!?!
As promised on Facebook earlier....I got this thought in my head today and it kinda sorta pissed me off. I see it everywhere....women that just because they are mothers and have more on their plates then they used to have completely let themselves go. They don't do their make up anymore, they have gained a ton of weight, don't care what they wear, and have basically all around said screw it and then bitch because their men don't give them ass anymore....lets think here....hmmmm...is there an answer to this....something to fix it?!?! Yep, there sure is....GET OFF YOUR ASS AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND STOP BLAMING IT ON BEING A DAMN MOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am a very laid back person and yes, I did come very close to falling into this trap myself but damn it...step back and look at yourself in the damn mirror!! You deserve better for yourself and your children deserve to walk next to someone who feels good about themselves which helps with their confidence in the future! If you don't know me personally let me just quickly tell you a day in the life of me....
6:30-7:00 *get my butt out of bed
7:00-8:15 *fix breakfast, drinks, change diapers, get mandy ready for school and off to the bus stop
8:15-10:00 *lazy time....movies, cuddle time, and sit back trying to fully wake up with my coffee while my children tear apart my living room while I pretty much sit back and watch.
10:00-10:30 *get kids changed and ready for the day
10:30-11:30 *go to my 92 year old papaw's house to let the dog out and take him anywhere he may need to go and see if he needs anything at all
11:30-1:30 *boys nap time (thank god!!!) so I have some quality time with Sky and try to clean up whatever mess they have made to make my house at least look decent
1:30-4:30 *take care of the kids and try to keep them from wrecking what I have cleaned up already, take a shower, do my make up, do my long ass hair, get dressed in decent clothes, help mandy with her homework, get dinner together, and then leave for work.
4:30-10:15 *at work making some $$$
10:15-till i pass out *try to have some relax time without kids up my butt!!!!
yes, my days are absolute hell! Plus when you add on top of this that I am an ex pain pill addict and am now stopping the medication that kept me from having withdrawals and am in full blown hell and pain, most women would say screw it! but at the same time....about 8 months ago i looked at myself in the mirror and actually started to cry! i wasn't wearing makeup anymore, i was up to 216 pounds, in a size 20, and just hated who was looking back at me in that mirror. I seriously wanted to blame it on my kids and how i never have time for myself but i basically said fuck that!!!! i cant blame me not taking care of myself on my kids. I take the time to make them look good and they deserve to walk next to a mother that looks damn good too!!! So, in the last 8 months i have dropped 66 pounds, 12 pants sizes, wear makeup every damn day, do my hair, nails, toes, and it actually makes me feel sooooo much better!!!!
I actually dread walking through Walmart because of how many women I see with only 2 or 3 kids and they look so worn out and funky that its actually disgusting! Would you want to be the kid walking next to you? Some women don't even take the time to match their clothes....SERIOUSLY?!?!?
So for all of you women out there that have totally and completely let yourselves go...please think about your kids and realize that it was you that brought them into your life and that it is not their faults that you look the way that you do. Please think about them and how much happier you and they will be to be out and looking good together! Plus, people like me wont be looking at you and then wanting to walk the other damn direction!!!
P.S. I promise that if you take care of yourself and start looking better that your man will not be able to keep his hands off of you which is a stress reliever in itself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Amen girl!!! Well said,, so proud of you and all you have accomplished in the past few months xoxo love you
ReplyDeleteI agree for the most part. I don't have four kids. You know that. I only have two boys. Hell ones a teenager now. I never blamed my boy's and for a while not my husband. Until a pattern started. He was and still is a drinking and drug addict. Doesn't try to be a father to his boys. He'll call every few months or 6 months.
ReplyDeleteI've delt with this behavior of his for the last 5 years we have been seperated. The stress of that is ehat did me in. Not knowing if he was even alive. Because of the way he would just not call anyone. Been hundreds of times that his mother and I would ask each other if either one of us has heard from him. So I agree up till a point. The things that happen to my kids and I are different. Then other stuff happened and it's changing us all. Making us a happier family. Just the boys and I. As for the husband he hasn't even tried. That still makes me sad for the boys, but I'm the one who has to keep going. Even with my addiction to alcohol. Which I am working on. Not only for the kids but for me. I'm more focused on my boys and then myself. No time for relationships right now. So their is no man to impress. Just myself for now.
I agree for the most part. I don't have four kids. You know that. I only have two boys. Hell ones a teenager now. I never blamed my boy's and for a while not my husband. Until a pattern started. He was and still is a drinking and drug addict. Doesn't try to be a father to his boys. He'll call every few months or 6 months.
ReplyDeleteI've delt with this behavior of his for the last 5 years we have been seperated. The stress of that is ehat did me in. Not knowing if he was even alive. Because of the way he would just not call anyone. Been hundreds of times that his mother and I would ask each other if either one of us has heard from him. So I agree up till a point. The things that happen to my kids and I are different. Then other stuff happened and it's changing us all. Making us a happier family. Just the boys and I. As for the husband he hasn't even tried. That still makes me sad for the boys, but I'm the one who has to keep going. Even with my addiction to alcohol. Which I am working on. Not only for the kids but for me. I'm more focused on my boys and then myself. No time for relationships right now. So their is no man to impress. Just myself for now.
Whops came up twice. Sorry still getting the hang of this phone. It's awsome. But very new to me.
ReplyDeleteFound your blog through Holdin Holden. I like it! Victoria from Newport News
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